Re: wise mother is better at being a good listener than being a good speaker.
method 1: make the posture of listening.
(1) must look closely with the children, and must not condescend.
(two) the body slightly tilted forward, which is an expression of interest.
(three) do not make "walls". If you put your hand over your mouth, hold your arms in your arms or turn your eyes to the book. These actions are a handicap for children.
(four) "listen" with the eyes. Children who want to open their eyes and speak naturally naturally use your eyes to express your interests and pleasures.
method two: showing interest in listening. The most disappointing speech in
is to hear the other person say, "I knew it."
we lack respect for children. The child said two words, and the adults became impatient: "yes, I knew it. Don't bother me! " "Why should we go? Who has time to listen to you?"
the child was so upset. When we care for our children as mothers, we should not only care for him to warm and cold, to eat and to live, but also to care for what he is interested in. Interested in the topic of your child's interest, and your interest in talking with your children is also available.
method three: convey your attentively listening attitude to your child.
gives the child the best compliment is to let the child know every word he says, and you hear it carefully.
(1) conveys facial expressions. For example, smile and surprise. Children are most surprised, and adults talk is "making a fuss". They want to see adults express surprise at what they say. The ability to frighten adults to show that they have a good job.
(two) language expression. In listening to children's conversation, use simple things like "wonderful!" "Is that true?" "I'm the same as you think." "Your idea is so good, please go on!" "I can't believe it!" And other words to show your interest.
you may find that no matter how simple the child's topic is, if you want to show a gesture of interest, then the interest will come out naturally. If you are always calm, silent and careless, your child will be very disappointed. Slowly, he will also develop the problem of not caring about anything. Those who are stunned in class and do not like to speak, may lack good listeners when they are young. Children have never felt the charm of their own language since they were young, and they will lose their confidence in their language skills.
mother is the first teacher in child language. And language is the most important part of early education.
do you want your children to be smarter? So, start with listening to the child.
the great Russian writer Chekhov said such a sentence: mother can not be replaced by others in educating children, because she can feel with the child, cry and laugh... It is useless to rely on theory and lessons alone.