A wise mother is better at being a good listener than a good speaker.
I have a child. At the age of 30, I gave birth to him, named Li Yue. When my son was born, I transferred back to Beijing from the Jilin Baicheng prefectural committee, who was working in the countryside, and entered the gate of the Chinese Youth newspaper that I was longing for. I treasure this opportunity very much, because not all educated youth can realize their childhood dreams.
in order to work wholeheartedly, I sent my 1 year old, 8 month old son to nursery school only once a week.
children come back from kindergarten and always say, "Mom, let's talk." Once, he cried to me and asked, "Mom, I know you are busy and don't have time to stay with me at home, but can you transfer me to a kindergarten that can go home every day?"
I failed to meet his request. My husband and I often travel on business and have no time to take care of him.
every time the child comes home, he always speaks to me in kindergarten, no matter what I like to hear. What a son needs is a loyal listener, and a mother is the most suitable person. Unfortunately, at the beginning, I didn't realize the child's needs. I always felt that listening to the children's words wasted my time to write or think. Therefore, every time my child speaks to me, I always do a very busy look. My eyes turn left and right, and my hands keep moving books and newspapers.
unexpectedly, my "busy" has brought obstacles to children's language expression. Because he was a very capable child, he spoke quickly, slowly becoming stammered, in order to finish the words in a limited period of time.
this has aroused my attention. I began to pay attention to changing myself and try to spare some time to listen to him. Gradually, my son became a teacher of my children's language. It was he who led me into a wonderful world of children, the extent to which I became fascinated by the education of children, and I learned how to read the book with my heart. This book turned out to be my textbook of "intimate sister".
equal conversation between mother and child, mother gets information about life, and son gains self-confidence. This equality is psychological equality. It makes a child savor human dignity.
boys need a mother to listen. The mother's listening has brought up the boy's humour. Humor is the charm of a man. And a man's humour is given by a woman. The first woman is his mother, the second woman is his wife or his girlfriend around him.
women generally like men who have a sense of humor. She thinks humor can bring a lot of happiness to them. A man who has a sense of humor must first cultivate a loyal audience. A man's first listener is his mother. Mothers should be good at listening, have patience to listen, listen to passion, and understand the art of listening.
if you find that your son doesn't talk, or speaks nervously or even listens to your speech, you should realize that you have made the "impatience to listen to the child"? You must change yourself immediately, otherwise you will regret for life.
girls need more mothers' listening. Mother's listening can make girls become literate women.
when you become a very good listener, it is when you become a good speaker that you have the condition of becoming a good friend of the children.
Mother's listening, will make the young children learn to establish contact with people with equality and respect from an early age, which will make the child feel very important and help the child learn to think independently.
when your child grows up and stands in front of you like a mountain, and when you need to look up to him, he is still habitually leaning down, like when you were young, listening to you and talking to you. At that time, old you will feel comfort and satisfaction from your mother.
listening is an art, a learning. Only those who can listen to their children attentively can they treat everyone equally.