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after 70 in rural areas, poor family poverty is a big probability event, I am.
children from poor families were masters of the family. From childhood, I knew that my family was poor. My parents wanted to send our three brothers and sisters to school. In particular, I have been reading all the time, not only unable to help the family work, but also tuition and living expenses.
, therefore, frugality is almost a habit in my bones.
when university graduated, its salary was very small, and every day it was calculated that it would be like living in a book.
only a few years later, at the supermarket, shopping in the supermarket does not always have to stare at the different color promotion price cards, do not have to rush to the long team, buying oneself love food does not have to count the price too much.
whenever I go home with a full shopping bag, I feel uneasy when I feel satisfied.
the consciousness of "poverty" has been following me since. When I go shopping, I can't help looking at the discounted cart. It is seventy percent off or half off. Every time I have to spend a lot of willpower, I can manage not to be tempted by the cheap goods.
If I want to buy something a little more expensive for myself, I will encourage myself with that slogan: "you deserve it!" In order to convince yourself, "I deserve these good things".
there is a friend who doesn't have a high income, but her bag and clothes are at least one grade higher than mine. She can buy an expensive jewellery that doesn't know what to do because she likes it. They always take their children out to eat and play around the weekend.
I often worry about others and think of their income. How can they afford such consumption? But after so many years, people did not go bankrupt. Our income is higher than that of them, and consumption is lower than that of them.
because of the "thrifty" idea that I grew up with, I could not bear to eat even if I had some good things.
for example, father noxi went to France and came back and brought me a bottle of perfume. I never used it. There is no such thing as "worthwhile" to use such a good thing. Then, it lasted for a long time, and then the whole bottle was sprinkled on the floor of the living room by Xiao Nuo.
good things can't be used. That's the real waste.
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life is a common example of crying with children.
for example, children play with water, many parents, especially the elderly, will stop the child from this: "Oh! You can't waste water. These are for money! "
this sentence is passed to the child a few layers of meaning:
1) poor, waste;
2) to spend money to waste (no money can be wasted?)
3) although playing with water makes me happy, my "happiness" is important without water charges.
if you put it another way, it will be much better, such as telling the child the importance of water and reminding the child not to waste it. If you want to play, you can bring a basin of water to play with him, play the rest of the rest, water flowers and mop the toilet.
"Mom, is our family very poor?" Your answer may harm the child's life!
again like the child's admired to the house's house of envy, some parents may say, "the house should be ten million, your parents' salary, and never think of it in this life!"
say at least two negative messages to children:
1) the house is beautiful and expensive, but our family is not fit;
2) poverty is a thing that can never be changed in this life.
the effect is different: "Mom and dad work hard to get us to live in such a beautiful house early, and you want to help!" Our family work together! "
in addition, there are all kinds of "mantra": where can we afford to eat in our house? We can't afford this! His father is a big boss. How can you compare with him?
all these languages are crying to their children. They are labelling the child with "I'm poor". Over time, the label will be more firmly attached to the soul.
a person's temperament and demeanor, his eyes and knowledge, is not determined by how much money he has or how much he has; in a way, it is determined by how much money he spent and how much good he consumed.
If a person's soul is labelling "I am poor", even if he has a fortune in the future, he will not know how to enjoy life and do not know how to treat himself well!