College students get home for 20 hours a day on vacation.
origin: People's network
"I seriously suspect that I am a fake home, I met a fake mother, was abandoned all day, not in the morning, at night. Don't sleep, people don't say hello... " Some college students say that they are not happy with their parents when they are on holiday.
reporter survey found that the reason why college students are "disliked" by parents is relatively concentrated: the room is dirty and messy, the work and rest are not healthy, so that something can not be shouted. College teachers suggest that college students learn to think differently, and spend time with their parents every day, occasionally participating in housework.
case 1: habit is on the bed, the room is chaotic like "doghouse"
"my mother calls me up at 7:30 every day, this is a war." When Xiao Wang came back from Northwest Normal University, she was almost "noisy 135" with her mother. "Just call me to get up in the morning and watch TV at night and see at 11 my mom will rush me to sleep, and I'll talk about it just like a clock."
Xiao Yi is also troubled by her mother's "morning call" every day. "At school, if there are no classes in the morning, they will stay in bed for a while and sleep at night. Xiao Yi said that sleep and sleep late were suddenly changed by her mother, and she always felt unaccustomed. Sometimes it was hard to avoid talking back. In addition to
, "as long as clothes are taken off on the sofa and the quilt is not folded in the morning, my mother says I am not like a girl, and I am not organized." Yi was very grieved. "My mother was crazy and said that my room is like a dog house." When I was in school, many of my classmates were like this. How did it get so serious here?
/ > parents respond:
"do not help do housework, even my own internal affairs are not clean, every time at home people have to say, I am embarrassed!" Xiao Yi's mother told reporters that he did not really want to count the children, but did not know how much time he spent with his daughter. "I hope to change her habits through constant reminders." She said that good college students should not only learn but also understand life.
case 2: do nothing, lie in bed 20 hours a day
Yao Yao is a student in a university in Jiangning, this year, she is going abroad for further study, to take the IELTS. "Sometimes when I'm lazy and don't want to memorize words, my mother will blame me." And because of the problem of going abroad, Yao Yao and his mother had an argument, "which country to go to?" Do you want to go to grad school first, go out to study abroad or go abroad to study? " Whenever you discuss this question with your mother, your mother always says that you decide for yourself. "At this point, I will be inexplicably angry, and then there will be an argument." Parents are very willing to provide reference, how come to my mother here feel that she is not so keen? "My mother's letting go" makes me nervous.
Yao Yao is basically a "housekeeper" who does not do any housework. "My mother told me not to lie down, wash dishes and learn to cook." Sometimes she promised her mother to help clean up her family's health. "It's hard for you to do something!" During the vacation, this sentence almost became mother's mantra.
parent response:
"the child has been more indecisive, because she will go abroad later, so she hopes she can be more independent to take care of herself." Yao Yao's mother said in an interview. What makes Yao Yao mummy angry is that his daughter will make plans, but often fails to do so. "I said her one or two, and she was still angry with me!" In the new year, she hopes that her daughter's goal will be implemented.
expert recruitment
How do you feel about having a "fake son"?
"I seriously doubt that I returned to a fake home, I met a fake mother, being abandoned all day, not in the morning, no lunch, not to eat at night, do not sleep at night, people do not call ah..." Xu Chuan, deputy secretary of the Party committee of the school of energy and power of Nanjing University of Aeronautics & Astronautics, often receives the students' slots in the background of "southern China Xu Chuan" WeChat public, Xu Chuan analysis: "it is simply to look forward to the fall." The feeling of parents is that children's performance is not the state they want to see.
XU Xu suggested that children should be more transposition thinking, for example, you have such a son, half a year did not see, a home is all day up all the night up late, playing games playing mobile phone, you will doubt, this is not a false son? Also not very intimate, also does not come to help, knew that lowers the head to dig the mobile phone, this stinky boy in the school is also such? So dissatisfied, so nagging, so hate iron not steel feeling. How can
not be "abandoned" by parents? Xu Chuan gave a few suggestions: take time every day to accompany parents, talk about the fun and not fun things you are in the school, even if you vomit, they also have a sense of participation. In addition, a little bit of eye power, occasionally participate in collective activities and labor, accompany mom to stroll around the supermarket, accompany the family to wrap dumplings, do not stare at the cell phone while eating.
parents are the most easily satisfied "children"
good to drink from the holiday home, being served by mom and Dad, and a few days after being "disused", many students say they can't accept it.
however, college students ask themselves whether they have realized that parental complaints are another form of concern. They nagging that you don't sleep in the morning, in fact, I want you to develop an orderly habit of doing a healthier body; they complain about your room like a dog nest, and also want to cultivate your self-care ability, and when they do not have a way to take care of you, you can keep the difficulties of living alone. All of this stems from parents' deep love for their children. As a younger generation, can you complain less and be more considerate? It should be not difficult to start from small things.
for example, boastful parents cook delicious meals, help them do housework, and go out with them to press the road. These "care" can make parents happy all day. Compared with us, parents are the most easily satisfied children.