7. qualitative: make children encounter unfair treatment of
a kindergarten big class girl in Shanghai, vwei (pseudonym) always likes to sneak home from kindergarten or other children's toys for a while, and the teacher did not find a child a day. Parents told the teacher that their children's toys were taken home by Vivien and not returned. The teacher observed Wei Wei and found that he quietly took a small toy from kindergarten into his schoolbag that day. So the teacher called vwei's parents to talk about it, but vwei parents thought it was a child's unconscious behavior and thought "the parents of other children were too small" to correct the inappropriate behavior of the children. The teacher disagreed with his parents but made a "excessive" behavior. She told the whole class that it was wrong to steal other people's things without consent. As a result, a few children went home and told their parents that vwei stole things and didn't want to play with her. On the one hand, the teacher simply gives a child's behavior, making an unfair treatment of a child with a vague concept. On the other hand, it is publicly accused of stealing, equivalent to saying to the other children, "you don't care for her, she is a bad boy." It makes them traumatized and is not conducive to the healthy growth of other children.
the line of cold treatment and cold violence: the key to whether to love children
"sometimes our teacher is a little confused, because in education, sometimes when it comes to cold treatment for children, the teacher is afraid that it will become cold violence in the eyes of the parents." An interview director told reporters.
cold treatment is a punishment for a child's specific behavior, allowing the child to understand that it is aimed at his inappropriate behavior rather than against him, as long as the wrong behavior is corrected; cold violence is aimed at this person, and often persistent. Cold treatment for children, but usually in other aspects of the same care for children, this will make children feel that their own behavior problems, parents and teachers will "cold treatment", they will build a sense of security, and also change bad behavior.
the mental health of a child is closely related to the care link of the caregiver. When the child feels that he is rejected, ignored and abandoned, it will affect the sense of security. Whether a teacher likes himself or not is easy to be perceived by sensitive children. Of all the recessive injuries, neglect, apathy and abandonment are the most traumatic. For example, when two children quarrel and fight, they often say, "I ignore you" because it is the most serious punishment for others. Children's identity and self-identity are from their caregivers. Children see themselves in their parents' eyes from childhood. When they see their eyes look at their eyes and are full of love, they think they are a worthy person. Conversely, if parents or teachers often look at them with harsh eyes, indifferent eyes, scornful eyes, and reproach, they will grow in inferiority.