at home, some parents do not realize that when the child makes a mistake, the cold speech and cold eyes are not "cold". Deal with it, but a cold violence. The survey found that about seven words and deeds are classified as daily life and teaching, which are easy to cause hidden harm to children. Covert injury is a kind of psychological injury to children, so that children's mental health is not healthy. Because hidden harm is less obvious than explicit injury, concealment is stronger, when people show psychological barriers, people will be aware of it. Therefore, the harm of recessive injury to individuals and society is greater, and people should pay more attention to it.
1. intimidation: do not listen to your
some children in the survey all said that the parents used "no more obedience, I will not be you", "never get up, dad and mother will go, you are at home alone," and so on To scare them. These words are parents unwittingly say, parents do not care about, but the children remember, and many children will believe it. In the survey, the baby of the big class reflected, and some words such as "I don't like you", "who will like you", "hate death" and so on, have been heard from the parents' mouth. This will cause psychological harm to children and thus be harmful to children's growth.
2. completely negates: how are you so stupid
sometimes, parents and teachers have inappropriate comments on their behavior and behavior, or careless sarcasm and sarcasm that will hurt their children's self-esteem. Many parents like to talk about "little fool" or "stupid". Sometimes they even feel that their parents are saying this with love. But children are too young to tell the true intentions of their parents or teachers. If they often say that children are stupid, the children will really think they are stupid, not as good as others, which can easily lead to inferiority, depression, anxiety and even self doubt.
3. emotional transfer: five or six young parents who are annoyed with a child or a perfunctory
reporter, they all say, work pressure, and if they have to be brought home by a leading criticism or a very busy job, it is possible to talk to the child on the child's "work" or naughty. When you talk with your emotions and appear rude or perfunctory, some parents will feel guilty after the event, some parents think this is normal. In fact, parents bring negative emotions to their children intentionally or unintentionally, making it easy to cause hidden harm to their children.