why can't children get up quickly?
I slowly brush my teeth, and grandma will come to help me at the end. I eat breakfast slowly, and at last my mother will take me to run, so it won't be late.
countermeasures
let the child take "slow" natural consequences
breakfast eat slowly, leave him, let him late; homework slow, write not finished, that second days is waiting for the teacher scolds.
children are slow in doing things because many children are born slow.
terrible is that children do not know how to adjust their speed according to priorities.
we do not urge children, but do not help children end up.
we have to let the child know:
your business you have to do it yourself, how you do it when you do it, but different choices will have different results, and there are something if you're slow to mess up.
let the child suffer several times, and he will remember his memory next time.
let the child taste the quick sweetness
when the child has finished the work ahead of time, give him some chance to do what he likes.
boudoir has set a time coupon for a child, for example, for a child to clean up a room for 15 minutes, and the child will get a 5 minute coupon for 5 minutes in advance, and the next child can change the coupon with his mother when he wants to watch more than 5 minutes.
this method not only accelerates the speed of children's work, but also makes children understand how long it takes 5 minutes.
use the buffer problem to lead the child to move quickly
for example, it is better to put the shoes on the children's feet in a silent way than to urge their children to wear their shoes.
and for some of the bigger children, we don't want to do anything directly, but we can put up a "buffer problem" to the children: Shoes - baby, you see which shoes you want to wear out of
bathing today - what kind of pajamas you want to wear in the bath today, let's choose a set of
Fourth: rubbing is retaliating for your "urge"
from a psychological point of view, procrastination is not a habit, but a resistance:
when the child does not want to do it, the parents force him to do it, and the child makes silent resistance with procrastination.
when we say "hurry up", it is actually saying that the child is slow, which in itself is a query and negation of the child's ability.
no one likes to always be said bad, and no one likes to do it when he is stared at, the invisible pressure will only make the child more slow, and then push out the fire.
the child also knows that he will be late without going out again, but your urge has shifted his attention. For him, "late" is not what he cares most about now. What he cares about most is that you are now trying to "control" him, accusing him, saying he is slow, and he is free and respected for him. The most important thing in your heart.
you urged me, because you think I can't do well, then I just don't do it, let you hurry! This is a child's antagonism against his parents' tyranny, and also a reprisal for "hasten".
game
reduce attention: to eat this problem, it would have been a pleasure to eat a child, it was a pleasure to eat a child and eat it. It was a task for us to stare all day and let the children feel that eating is a task. It's all resistance. How can I get up quickly?
rather than staring at a child at dinner, we should think more about how to increase the energy consumption of the child, make the children's favorite food, take up the snacks at home, make him feel hungry naturally, and help the child regain his desire and pleasure to eat.
- using games to make everything interesting: This is my most common use. Every time my nephew dragged his feet before washing his hands, I was excited to say to him, "come, let's get to the pool first than who, are you ready, I want to count 1, 2, 3!" My nephew would be fooled for a while and thought I was going to play games with him.
there's a mother on micro-blog, and she has a mother to share with each of her children's time hours:
eat - Squirrel time: "Hey, now it's the squirrel baby time, the mama mama is ready, we're going to start eating pines" - ~
Nail - Little Princess Beauty Time: "little princess, your beauty time is coming, are you ready to make your nails beautiful?" ~
sleep - Shrek time: "Shrek is waiting for you in the room, turn off the light, close your eyes, he's already in a dream waiting for you to take a big adventure."
5 sentence, do all the children's rubbing
fifth sentences: not the child is too dally, we are too anxious for
perhaps the above methods may not work, but there is nothing in this world that is worth our struggle with the children!
if you say that children eat slowly to affect the body, I want to say: emotion is the most affecting the health of the child, stomach disease is mostly the mood, the struggle can not solve the problem, parent-child relationship is the cornerstone of childcare.
there is no need for "meticulous management" in the education of children, and there is no need for "standardized operation".
when we complain about the children's rubbing and disrupting our rhythm, we don't actually see the rhythm of the child in our eyes. It's always a simple and rough hope to keep the child in sync.
often hasted, disturbed children are poor and irritable, and your urge may get a short, seemingly satisfactory result, but it will permanently damage the child's mind.
why we can't let the child see the animation he loves to see, these seemingly boring and naive things, for children, is the fun of their life.
it may be the same for every hand for us, and the child can feel the subtle difference, such as the temperature of the water, the size of the water, the child is not wasting the time, and for him, everything is new, and he is experiencing the world and knowing the world.
as Long Yingtai wrote in the book "children, you slowly": "I, sitting on the steps of the shallowly shallowly shallowly, looking at the bright eyed child to do one thing. Yes, I would like to wait for a lifetime, so that he gently tied the butterfly, using his 5 year old fingers. Children, slowly, slowly... "
let us respect the rhythm of the children, perceive their own anxiety, let the children grow up and enjoy the drops of life in a "slow" time and again, which is not a kind of life wisdom.
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