Ji Fu mother: in order to look after the children, they left their hometown and came to a strange city.
> / > in a district of Ji'nan Province Most of the children who play with their children are elderly people, many of whom are Ji floating. Newspaper reporter Liu Yafei
in Ji'nan, there are a group of special financial drifting, they come to Ji'nan not to pursue the dream, but for their own children. Cao Jianying, Qin Ling and Gao Meijuan are all such drifting. They did not live with their children in a city. In order to see their children and leave their home for decades, they turned their mothers into a new life.Amp; hellip.amp; hellip< br / > a year in his home for less than ten days
Cao Jianying love sports, when she had breakfast every day in Laixi, Qingdao, her home, she would go to the center of old cadres 100 meters away from home, play pingpong with many years of ball friends. After lunch with her companion, she could sleep after lunch, and then go to the center of health to swim in the evening. Gao Meijuan's hobby is shopping, in her old home in Heze, there is a big shopping mall, there is a free time she will go shopping, although the price is not expensive there, but always thrifty habits let her more time, less time to buy, even buy things, most are bought for children, daughter-in-law and old companion.
Qin Ling is a native of Jiangxi. Whenever she goes out in her County town, she can meet several acquaintances. The frequent gathering between brothers and sisters enriched her rich and colorful life.
the only thing they have in this life is that their children are not around, watching other people's children go home every weekend and eat a meal. They also feel envious. Cao Jianying and Gao Meijuan's son's son's daughter-in-law and Qin Ling's daughter son-in-law are all working in Ji'nan, with the exception of occasional holidays. Waiting can only relieve children's thoughts by video.
Gao Meijuan is the oldest eligibility of three Ji Fu mothers. His granddaughter has already been in kindergarten. She has lived in Ji'nan for nearly five years. Cao Jianying and Qin Ling came to Ji'nan last year to see their children. Cao Jianying's relatives could not get away from home. Looking for a nanny to watch grandchildren would increase the financial burden of their children. Therefore, watching grandchildren away from home is an unshirkable task for Cao Jianying.
the birth date of Cao Jianying's grandson was at the end of March last year. In order to prevent premature delivery, she and his wife arrived in Ji'nan a month in advance. Before her departure, she had a meal with her family, and the more than 80 year old mother, who could only lie on the bed, had to pay to big brother and other sisters, with her old companion, with the little quilt and clothes prepared for the children, the crucian carp, pig's hoof and pigeons prepared for her daughter-in-law to Ji'nan.
lived in Ji'nan for more than a year, and the old two went back to eleven times during the eleven holidays and New Year holidays, and stayed at home for less than ten days. Cao Jianying spent most of his time cleaning and joining relatives. The two time to go back, she took half a day to the elder brother's home to see the old mother, to clean the room for her health, wash clothes, and give her a meal, accompany her to eat, the mother's filial piety and usual care should be concentrated in two half days.
because he was too far away from Ji'nan, Qin Ling never visited his hometown once since he visited his daughter. All the flowers and plants in my family depend on my sister to water and water: I don't know how she keeps flowers for me.
repeats almost the same daily life
in Ji'nan, the three mothers repeat almost the same daily life. When you are busy, you should make mistakes as little as possible so as not to blame your child.
May 11th, Sunday, mother's day, but in the eyes of the three mothers, this day is not the same as usual. Qin Ling only remembered to take his grandson to an early teaching class on this day. For her, the number and the week, except to remind her that she should take her grandson to class, and take the grandson to prevent the needle, the other meaning has been desalinated.
every day, Qin Ling gets up at six in the morning and starts to work. She has to cook six meals a day, three for adults and three for grandchildren. The time before waking up in the morning is very precious to her. She has to prepare the ingredients to eat for a day, so that she can take more time to look after the children during the day. Although almost every meal at home is made by Qin Ling, she always leaves the best for her children and her wife, who often has a leftover meal in front of her.
the little grandson is more than one year old, just when it is sticky and just learned to walk. In order to avoid his bumping, Cao Jianying's eyes are almost afraid to leave him for a moment. Even so careful, the mischievous little grandson's face, body or a few injuries, and see these injuries, and the pain of Cao Jianying at the same time. There is a bit of worry in the heart: will the daughter-in-law go home not to blame my child?
this worry and uneasiness often appears in Gao Meijuan's life, the granddaughter does not like to eat, she is worried that she is not well fed, the daughter-in-law meal is less, she also worried that it is his own food does not suit her taste.
it was too hard for Cao Jianying to learn to drag the floor and wash clothes, but the trivia of the family had almost occupied all her time. Only after dinner and the son's daughter-in-law looked at the child, she was able to relax and lay on the bed and listen to the family's reasons on the radio. Things.
his son had unwittingly heard Cao Jianying and his wife saying, "I'm exhausted today." but when he asked his mother and watched the child tired, Cao Jianying always said, "not tired," when she had a joke, "do you see me fat, tired and fat?"
To integrate into the city, we have to change our
changing cities, not only the geographical changes, but also changes in language, eating habits and consumption patterns. In order to integrate into this city, mothers have to change themselves. Although his wife, son, daughter-in-law, and granddaughter are all around, Gao Meijuan always feels that the place he lives in is not his own home. In her own home, she is the master, where everything is to be placed, and where a vase is located, the son and his daughter-in-law agree.
walked out of the house, and Cao Jianying felt he was not at home. The son's residence is a unit dormitory, in which there is a table tennis table in the old age activity room. Once, Cao Jianying and his wife wanted to go in and play table tennis, but they were blocked by the staff at the door and told them that they could only let the retired old man of this unit be active. This made the old two faces feel uncomfortable, and began to miss their home activities room and play with those good friends.
heard of their experience, Cao Jianying's daughter-in-law gave two old fitness centers outside the community to run two fitness cards, swimming and playing table tennis, but because there was no time, only three times in two months. Gao Meijuan occasionally visited the mall with his son and daughter-in-law. Hundreds of thousands of goods in Ji'nan's shopping malls could not interest her at all.
Qin Ling and his wife all said their home words. In their hometown, their hometown is a pass, and here it is an obstacle to communicate with others. Many times, people can not understand what they are saying, so that they have to repeat it over and over again. Later, Qin Ling and his wife began to learn to speak Mandarin, and Qin Ling's Mandarin was better than her old companion, which became a capital that she showed in front of her companion.
when it came to Ji'nan, others called Cao Jianying old two "teachers", and Cao Jianying went home and asked his son: "how do they know I was a private teacher when I was young with your father?" for a long time, Cao Jianying and his wife did not consciously add the taste to Ji'nan. Now, my partner When he calls the water worker, he also says, "teacher, please send a bucket of water."
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some are ready to return to home and return home to
"do not do" Ji Fu ", we can only be an 'empty nest' old man," Cao Jianying summed up the dilemma faced by most parents such as her and Gao Mei Juan and Qin Ling. A deep sigh.
when he came to Ji'nan, Gao Meijuan's friends often got a phone call from a friend of his family and asked him to go out to dinner. Later, friends knew he was looking at the children in Ji'nan, and the telephone number of the dinner was getting less and less. Gradually, many old friends have their own third generation. They also want to see their children in other cities. Their old friends gathering is becoming more and more difficult to gather together.
after a granddaughter's nursery school, no two people would have to look at it. In Ji'nan, he could not bear it. He went back to his home for a few days. He wanted a granddaughter to come back for a few days. "He would only do the simplest meal like hot bun and the following." Gao Meijuan was back home in the old days. He was very worried about him and worried that he could not eat well.
"two aunt, who are you looking at?" Cao Jianying once received a video from her nephew. At the other end of the video, it was a maiden who was gathering together, looking at those familiar faces. She was a bit homesick, but if she went back home, she missed the children and grandchildren. "I also want to bring my grandson back home, but my grandson has not weaned, nor does his daughter-in-law agree."
each district has many children. Careful observation is not difficult to find. Most of these children are playing with the elderly. The time to go out with children is Qin Ling's only outdoor activity every day, and now she has only the chance to make new friends. The name of the child in the community, she can call up more than half, who is looking at the children, she also probably know: "Niu Niu, Yang Yang are grandparents look at, the great grandmother is looking at..." Most of the children who look at the children are like Qin Ling, Gao Meijuan and Cao Jianying. They are together. In addition to the experience of the children, they will talk about their family's interesting things and talk about their current troubles.
"when my child was looking for a job, his father and I encouraged him to go to a big city, which is more promising than staying in the county seat." The son is the pride of Gao Meijuan. Like Gao Meijuan, since the children began to go to college, there were only two people left in Cao Jianying's and Qin Ling's homes. Even if they were lonely, they thought the future of their children was more important than their personal feelings.
in order to stay in Ji'nan longer and more comfortably, Cao Jianying and his wife put out their life savings, let his son borrow money, bought a small house in a place not far from his son's home. "My son's daughter-in-law is the only child and can have a second child. I see grandson and see the next grandson, waiting for them." Well, I have to send them to school... " In Cao Jianying's next plan, almost all the children and grandchildren.
Gao Meijuan planned to wait for his granddaughter to go to school and go back to his hometown: "the Golden Nest is not as good as his own grass nest," although he had been living here for more than five years, Gao Meijuan still didn't find his place.
"where the child is, where is the home." Qin Ling intends to overcome all kinds of unaccustomed habits in Ji'nan, and perhaps for a long time, she can alleviate her wandering feeling in Ji'nan. Ji'nan can also be her second home.