The 4 most missing aspects of children today are 5 sentences for mom and dad.
1, lack of happiness in childhood;
2, lack of spiritual culture;
3, lack of intimate communication;
4, a lack of sense of achievement.
5 advice to mom and Dad:
*1, growth is more important than success
the most successful
the parents have a strange phenomenon, what all do for children, and think that the task of the child is to study. I organized a summer camp. A little child looked at the boiled egg in a daze. I said, "don't you like it?" "Love it!" "So why don't you eat it?" "The egg is different from the egg of our house!" "What's the egg in your family like?" "Our eggs are white and soft. The eggs are too hard to bite!" Later, I know, this child has not seen the family cooking eggs, the process of peeling eggs, are set to cut into four pieces in front of the food, so do not presuppose the result, and to pay attention to the growth process, the foot of the road, the child is the most successful child!
*2, experience more important than the name of
- overindulgent children incompetent
say that children are now poor in psychological endurance and can not withstand setbacks, because parents do not give them the opportunity to undergo training, failure and setbacks. "A boy is afraid of learning bad, and a girl is afraid of being hurt." but unexpected injuries can happen every day. Excessive protection is the child's incompetence. It is possible to contain the child and make the home the last harbour of the child; to understand him, let him find warmth and security, and to give him a way rather than a wall when he is wandering and without a way out.
*3, giving more than giving important
- giving children the opportunity to love you
only to give children love, will make them feel no sense of responsibility, only to ask for it. A laid-off female worker knows that the child likes to eat prawns, buy their teeth from the market, watch the children eat with relish, and can't hold up their chopsticks. The 13 year old said, "that's mine." Too much indulgence and unlimited indulgence grow the child's selfishness, so that the child has only himself and no one else.
*4, dialogue is more than against important
- don't fight with children,
puberty children love with their parents "." the parents of the forty or fifty year old also love to "fight" with their children. Each side stands on each side to impose their opinions on each other, just to change others, and do not want to change Own銆� For example, when talking about puppy love, many parents simply and brutally obstruct and coercion.
adolescent children are in a period of growing adult sense, but in a period of immature psychology, he hopes to be respected by adults and lack of basic trust in his parents. So he has a strong reverse psychology and the door of his mind is open only to his peers. At this time he needs to have a special mind and need to understand.
*5, incentive ratio accusations of important
- appreciate the child and tell him, "you can do"
to express dissatisfaction with the child, to be full of blame, to bring negative information to the child, to make the child faint, depressed, and even to be weary of the world. When I was young, I had two hobbies. One was painting. When I was 5 years old, I painted a big cock. My mother said, "great! I have said that the cock you painted is prettier than I raised. " So, I love painting more, the blackboard newspaper from first grade to the third grade, to the rural queue for farmers to run newspapers, later on the "Chinese Youth Daily"; two is love dance, the year of five, Beijing City dance school to recruit a small actor. The unfortunate incident happened: when I was wearing a small underpants, a vest, behind my hands and feet straight, a teacher walked past me and glanced at me and said, "hum, the legs are not dancing." From then on, when I danced, I remembered that, and then I dared not jump any more. Then I simply did not jump. So I said to my parents, children grow up in the "you can not" in the environment, slowly will "you do not" internalized to "I can not", he is really not, in fact, for children, there is no talent is not important, the important thing is whether there is interest and self-confidence. Don't look at others, dare to cheer for their children, believe that your child will create miracles!