Seventy years old married only three days because of children's relationship and property disputes divorce
"I thought we could lead the way to the end of life, but God gave only three days of hope." Yesterday morning, Mr. Sun, 70 years old, took his marriage certificate in his left hand, took the divorce certificate in his right hand, looked at the photo of his old man who had broken up, shook his head and sighed.
Valentine's day, with tears in tears,
Mr. Sun's home in Gaoling, when he was young in a factory in Xianyang, and retired to live in the countryside of Gaoling. In November 2009, his wife died of cancer. Because a few children are not around, usually he lives alone. Mr. Sun's comrade in arms saw him living alone, and introduced his 54 year old nephew, Ms Hu, to him.
after exchanging, Mr. Sun learned that his husband had been dead for 11 years, and a pair of children also had their own jobs. "We have been in association for 10 months and keep a friend's relationship. Although she has little culture, she has moved me on a simple and simple side, and the children of each other support their mother's marriage." Mr. Sun loves playing chess and calligraphy and painting. After careful consideration, he thinks two people are very suitable. Not long after he communicated with his children, he also got the consent.
in February 11th of this year, they received the marriage certificate. Just as two people were immersed in the joy of new marriage, a dispute broke out. "A few of my children found Ms. Hu's children's argument, saying that I had sent her tens of thousands of yuan, which in fact cost hundreds of yuan to buy a gold ring and some clothes."
because of the whereabouts of the money, unhappy happenings happened between the children of both sides, and he and Ms. Hu were forced to divorce in February 14th. After that, Ms. Hu went to live in the field. "On Valentine's day, we had a breakup dinner with tears in our eyes, and now we are worried."
children think that father "give money" does not respect children's opinions.
yesterday morning, the reporter saw Mr. Sun's eldest daughter. She said that the children did not oppose the father's late marriage, but the choice of Ms. Hu was not appropriate. Most of the family property was saved by the dead mother and gave the other person disrespect for their children's opinion.
Mr. Sun said that his monthly pension is only 1000 yuan, and there is no other property except the houses of the two houses in the rural residential land of Gaoling county. He said that Mrs Hu's children said that if Mr. Sun died first, they would take their mother home without any money at all. "Children really make me sad, remarried and look at the faces of their children." Speaking of this, Mr. Sun was in tears. He thought the divorce was too hasty and failed to live up to the true feelings of Ms. Hu. After the divorce, the two men almost never contacted again.
yesterday, the journalist had no fruit to live in the field many times. She unwittingly saw a mobile phone message she sent Mr. Sun to Mr. Sun more than 10 days ago. It said: "I don't contact you for your good, I hope your family is in harmony and take care of yourself, I still love you..."
it is difficult for the elderly to remarry in the property and inheritance issues
yesterday, the reporter interviewed the Gaoling Civil Affairs Bureau. The marriage registry staff said the divorce rate of remarried elderly people is very high. Although written statements are mostly emotional disagreements, children are actually affected by the majority.
"freedom of marriage includes young people, including the elderly. The marriage law stipulates that children should respect their parents' right to marriage, and should not interfere with the remarriage of their parents and the life after marriage. The law on the protection of the rights and interests of the elderly also has similar provisions. " Yang Jun, a lawyer at Shaanxi Jin Di law firm, said that marriage autonomy is a basic human right, and even children have no right to interfere. At present, single elderly people have a lot of desire to remarry, but the success rate is not high. The main difficulty is property and inheritance.
the staff of the elderly marriage office in Xi'an said that many elderly people would avoid trouble and choose to live together and "get married", but this form of protection from law will cause a lot of social problems. Our reporter Song Feihong
old people remarriage should be "agreement first"
because the marriage relationship will lead to the change of personal property relations, the remarriage of the elderly directly affects the vital interests of both the couple and their respective children. Yang Jun lawyers put forward three legal proposals:
1. premarital property agreement. It is better to go to the notary office to carry out property notarization through a written agreement on the ownership of the property before and after marriage.
2. will enter into a will in advance. By way of a will, the premarital property of each party is agreed to be inherited by all the children.
3. alimony agreement. It is stipulated that the obligations of the children of all the children after the remarriage should be properly handled.