Re: "pet dependence" entangles old people
the old man puts too much affection on his pet, which is a psychological "compensatory behavior". This state can be divided into two types: conscious and blind. Conscious compensation is to know its weaknesses and shortcomings, and to foster strengths and circumvent weaknesses. Blind compensation is not a clear understanding of their own shortcomings and defects, often leading to excessive compensation, the result of some deformity development, the destruction of the coordination of personality, but aggravated psychological conflict, resulting in difficulties in adaptation, poor interpersonal relations.
can be seen that this "compensatory behavior" can be constructive or destructive. In short, if it is driven by a strong and urgent mood that strives to get rid of the status quo, it will lead to excessive compensation to the needs of a certain object without a limited objective condition. For example, the elderly, because their children are not around, when their affection can not be satisfied, the emotional investment object is replaced as a pet, so as to seek spiritual support, for a long time it may be over dependent on the partner's pet in the psychological.
empty nest is not hollow, the old man should take the initiative to get out of
how to effectively prevent and eliminate the excessive dependence of the empty nest elderly on pets? "Pet dependence" prevention and control is basically "emotional transfer", the elderly should do the empty nest "heart", the main move out of the house, consciously cultivate self More extensive interest, and more communication with their peers, such as the park practice Taijiquan, dance swords, chess, the community of chorus, dance teams and other sports activities, to the old university to learn painting, calligraphy, and so on. On this basis, the elderly may also be able to sublimate their children's "little love" to the "great love" of others, to work in the community and public welfare institutions, to be happy and satisfied from the process of helping others.
free from dependence, children and social responsibility
psychology professor Wang Xiangnan thinks, to avoid old people's pet dependence, first need the whole society to pay attention to and pay attention to the needs of modern old people, create a place for them to be socially suitable for the elderly, low fees and security. The government and other functional departments should take "providing social places for the elderly" as a welfare cause, and recruit more volunteers and volunteers to serve the elderly.
next, the children, relatives and family members of the empty nest elderly should communicate with the old people ideologically, and do not think that it is enough to give the old people rich material conditions, and to encourage and take the elderly to go out and visit friends and to find a suitable social circle for the elderly. .
again, the psychological workers should also give more to the empty nest elderly psychological counseling, more to provide the elderly with chat, the elderly psychological counseling and other compulsory services.
old people's point of view
my children are not around, I have a dog, my wife and I like it very much. Our lives are also more regular. We will remember to feed it and take it out for a walk, which also encourages us to have meals on time and keep outdoor activities. In the course of walking the dog, we often meet some acquaintances, even speak with strangers, improve social life and improve our mood, and some chronic diseases such as headache, such as my old companion, have also been relieved. I think it's better to have a good pet. (Zhejiang Shaoxing, Chu Su Yan 69 years old)
"pet dependence" should cause people to reflect, we should pay more attention to the psychological needs of relatives, more communication, and pay more attention. Children are too busy to spend more time with their elderly parents, if conditions can take the elderly to the suburbs to walk, relax; light to the elderly and not to accompany them, can not be counted as filial piety.
(Hebei Cangzhou Liang Rong 58 years old)
pet life is generally much shorter than human life, such as the life of a dog usually only a dozen years, like any good thing, with it, it is unavoidable to lose. When the pet enters the old disease, it can keep one again, so when the departure time comes, the new companion animal can bring some comfort to the old people, help the old people to get out of the grief as soon as possible, and face with a positive and positive attitude.
(Wang Jing, Shandong, Qingdao, 55 years old)
raising pets is mostly for loneliness and enriching old age life. But my neighbor has a parrot, just buy back, morning exercise back to teach parrot "hello", the day is not bright on the balcony, chirp on the balcony: "Hello, get up!" cause the night shift people and students are not good rest, we propose to use black cloth to mask the cage, neighbors are afraid of the bird grievance is not The adoption has provoked everyone to have a good opinion. To be fond of this hobby is to increase the enjoyment of life, but it is not good to have a harmonious relationship with the neighbours.
(62 years old in Li Yan, Beijing)