at 8 in the evening, my son did not return.
at 9 in the evening, my son did not return.
at 10:30 in the evening, insomnia and sleep late.
when a reporter asked a short message, he asked the old man, "do you know that my mother usually has several friends in the community?" "Can you name their names?" The head of the day was slow.
5 minutes later, he replied, "sorry, I really don't know."
"how often do you communicate with your children?"
"the child is tired for a day without talking."
65 year old Wang Sumei and her daughter Wang Qi live in a high-rise residential district in Fengtai. A tall and tall building of three pink residential buildings is filled with thousands of people, but for Wang Sumei, there is only a stranger here. In the high-speed flow of Beijing, in a few days, her neighbors will be replaced with new ones.
this is a great difference between the old people's neighbors.
"3 or 4 bungalows at home, whatever they want to do, is really choking here." She could not even remember the name of the vegetable market that she often went away from home. She was illiterate from rural Sichuan, unable to travel by subway, bus and other means of transport.
without daughter's accompany, how can Tiananmen and the Imperial Palace fail to get there.
during the day, when children go to work, there is little movement in the room except for the crying of the children, and the children come back in the evening to talk a few words, but looking at their weariness, the old man can only choose silence. "I understand that children are tired during the day and do not want to speak normally." Wang Sumei told reporters like that.
in August 1, 2017, an elderly man in Beijing moved home with his grandson who had just left school. Central Guangzhou network reporter Wang Yongkang
a few days ago, the daughter Wang Qi hurried home to take the documents needed for overtime, through the east side of the vegetable market on the zebra line, but the mother was caught in a dark and dark dish. The couple, in the middle of the social youth with flip flops, had their arms wrapped around their children. The white cloth sacks were filled with vegetables.
she found that the beautiful life of children and grandchildren who had heard from her mother's mouth was not all true.
in the traditional Chinese people's traditional concept, the old people and grandchildren are happy and harmonious around the knee and family, which is the life they should enjoy. But the "invisible elderly" in these communities have to endure loneliness and helplessness and want to help their children. He can leave his old man's wife, like his wife and himself, and become a "invisible man" who is shuttling through the community.
during a survey in Chaoyang, Fengtai and other communities in Beijing, when asked about the "familiarity with community neighbors", half of the elderly chose "no" or "only familiar", and even the old man replied that it was a nodding acquaintance in the staircase, the elevator and the trash when it dropped the garbage. The scope of communication?
lack of friends, homesickness, loneliness, and climate change are the common reality of their life in Beijing.
in August 1, 2017, Beijing, an old man and a grandson of more than two, children were crying because of falling down. Wang Yongkang
according to the report on the development of social governance in Beijing, the first three main contacts of the old people are family, neighbours and friends, respectively, and the proportion is 30.4%, 24.6% and 23.5%, respectively. Among them, friends have the least number of times.
A Study on the "invisible old man" of a community in Changping District showed that 14% of these old people were in contact with people. She believes that, on the whole, the elderly's psychological identity and sense of belonging to the community are not strong enough.
from the nature of the outflow, the proportion of rural, township, small and medium-sized cities and large cities are 36%, 18%, 32% and 14% respectively, and the proportion of elderly people from rural areas is slightly higher. The reporter also noted that there were more women than men in the elderly; from the age, the elderly tended to become younger, most of them were at the age of 56~60 and 61~70, which accounted for 94% of the total survey report.
"invisible old man" or
"community 'invisible old man" has formed a certain scale. They leave their familiar environment to come to a strange city, and the identity and psychological cognition bring the social behavior. According to the analysis of the China Youth University for Political Science teacher and the PhD Zhou army of the psychology major of the North Normal University, the previous data showed that among the elderly people with depression, the majority of the elderly were in the elderly.
there is a strong connection between mental health and mental illness and the degree of interpersonal support. An elderly person who is on the move is facing the new life of "uprooting", and lacks interpersonal support. There is no object of communication in life, and no one talks about it. Looking at Zhou Jun, who has studied psychology for many years, these will have a very negative impact on the mental health of the elderly.
in fact, sometimes the above problems also have a lot to do with the old man's character. "They feel abandoned. They can't go back to their old home. They feel like they're redundant." Miao Yanmei, a professor of public administration at Beijing City University, believes that children now need to "nurture" their parents and give them family guidance.
she also suggested that the government should buy services, and the social institutions should carry out more services for the floating population, especially in the connection of policy, such as improving the social security system, solving the problems of medical reimbursement in different places, and medical care for the elderly in Beijing. The preferential treatment should be equivalent to the elderly or to some extent.
for example, the community can organize an interest group for the elderly. "Some hospitals specifically organize breast cancer patients to organize activities because they have many resonance points in communication." Miao Yanmei added that if the government buys services, it must also be institutionalized. "
" bad integration into the city is normal, but as the elderly are physically aging, the sense of organ, learning and adaptation to a certain degree of decline, the challenge will be greater. " Zhou Jun believes that this is the adaptation stage, rather than the ending, of the elderly in the urbanization stage.
note: to protect the interviewees, part of the name is the pseudonym; part of the relevant data sources, Beijing social governance development report (2016~2017), Beijing Academy of Social Sciences