Re: family planning cadres were investigated for 12 years.
in the later visits, almost every family, Han Shengxue will be "lost person". Living environment touched: scattered scattered in the room, filled with desk bottles. He found that "real life problems are easier to beat than mental pain."
in the twilight years, their parents are more likely to be knocked down by illness because of extreme depression. According to the survey, more than 90% of our parents are suffering from varying degrees of illness. More than half of them are at risk of high risk of chronic diseases such as hypertension, heart disease, brain stem, and 15% of them have to face serious diseases such as cancer and paralysis.
Zhang Li, Hunan's lost mother, lost two days in the chat group. When the netizen arrived at her home, she found herself leaned sideways in the aisle of the doorway. After being sent to a hospital by a netizen, the doctor found that her appendix had been purulent, and the abdominal cavity was full of body fluid. "Later, it will be life-threatening."
parents of many children who have died of illness have owed a lot of debt to their children, but their children are dead, their debts will not "die", and the pressure of debt repayment will even accompany their entire life.
a "lost person" in the poem asked a lot of "how":
tomorrow I am old, I can't move / what should I do / can't go shopping, I can't get my salary / do my own cooking, I can't wash my clothes / what I should do / sick, I can't see the drug instructions / myself. No hospital, the hospital needs to accompany, what I should do / age, I am old, poor memory / money can not take care of myself, cooking forgot to turn off the fire, forget to shut the water, what I should do / I fear tomorrow, because I am getting older / hungry, no one is serving the rice bowl, I am sick and no one has a cup of water / accompanied solitude, waiting is hopelessness What should I do tomorrow?
however, many "loss of independence" grief is not even being squarely faced. Several of the "lost ones" took a new year's Eve dinner at a restaurant, but were driven away by the boss because of "too bad".
even within the "lost individual", some special groups will be excluded. An old man with his grandson, who took part in the "lost person", was told that "Sun Tzu can't enter a mirror in a collective picture", while in the virtual space, most of the "lost" chat groups are not welcome to join the third generation of "lost people".
"we can't bear to see their grandchildren chattering together." An old man complained to Han Shengxue that those who lost their only grandchildren were lucky.
Han Shengxue doesn't think so. In his eyes, with the grandchildren of the "loss of independence" elderly, not only facing the same old age dilemma, but also bear the pressure of grandparents raising. Some of them had entered the flower armor year, but had to play the role of parents again.
"when the parents' meeting is held, these grizzled grandparents will still play the role of parents." Han Sheng doctrine, such a "loss of independence" face more frustration and embarrassment, "for the elderly, for children are hurt."