Ji'nan 6 years old "lost independence" 21 years to accompany comfort photos become the only consolation
Mid Autumn Festival, the 62 year old "lost mother" Li Hong (the name of the pseudonym) would not have been visited. On the eve of the Mid Autumn Festival, she turned to 12345 for help, hoping that someone would accompany her during the Mid Autumn Festival and leave her detailed address. Knowing that the reporter visited, the mother wept twice, she called the reporter "baby" all the way, and gave the reporter a meal to face a sudden visit to a stranger, she said her own story without reservations...
lost alone: the original one passed the Mid Autumn Festival, specially cooked "reunion dumplings"
15 days 10 points, the reporter did not beforehand greeting, direct visit to the elegant residence of Li Hong's home, to bring her a surprise. When Li Hong opened the door and saw a reporter with a moon cake, her eyes once burst into tears. "Baby, come in, baby, thank you for coming to see me!"
what was it going to do today? "I've been making fun of it all day." Li said.
Li Hong hasn't had breakfast yet, and the newly cooked pumpkin, corn and wax gourd are still steaming hot. "If you don't come, I'll plug in the door and pretend that there's no one in the family." Li Hong said, "all these years of the festival are my own, this year, the Mid Autumn Festival, I want to accompany me!" her brothers and sisters have family, also are only children, the festival seldom get together.
more than 40 square meters of room, is her own home, her daughter died, she immediately divorced. In July 2015, it moved into the public rental housing, which has a monthly rent of more than 200 yuan.
such a person's life, she insisted on 21 years. In the late May of this year, the second brother of her family came to accompany her for nearly a month, or because she had a heart attack. "When I was in the University, I had a heart attack, and I was admitted to the intensive care unit. The school teacher was sent to the hospital. After the children left, I was sick and hospitalized.
11:30, Li Hongliu reporter ate at home, specially cooked a bowl of dumplings that symbolize reunion. "You eat dumplings." Li Hong cooked more than 30 dumplings, and she didn't eat it at one bite.
painful memories: cute daughter died 21 years ago, the photo became the only comfort
"I'm full." The reporter said. "Eat a shrimps again." Li Hong picked up the chopsticks and fed the shrimp to the reporter's mouth.
after lunch, Li Hong could not bear the reporter's leaving, and he found the album of his family and displayed them one by one. On the morning of July 28, 1995, Li Hong, 41, returned to his home in Changqing and found her daughter Ying Ying (a pseudonym) committed suicide. "In a few months, she is 16 years old." She is so cute and obedient that I don't understand. " Recalling the scene of her daughter's suicide, Li Hong cried with her last picture.
Li Hong took out a golden childhood, which is a vivid record of growth, and each page is equipped with a picture of her. This yellowing old record book is the only comfort that Li Hong has missed every time for her daughter over the years. "My little baby laughs so sweet that my mother wishes my baby all his life to be as sweet as her smile, so sweet!" the last two pages of the record were Li Hong's recollection of her daughter. "Children, how many times do you open the door and look at the way, always think you have come back, how many times let me down, how many times? "Break my heart!"
"you will take me as your daughter today!" the voice of the reporter, Li Hong voice gently back, "your mother will not want."
self redemption: it's hard to laugh
the daughter's death and the divorced husband and wife. Li Hong's factory is contracted by a person and she is out of work. "Every time I go back to Changqing, I pass my head at the safety store, and I don't want to see that sad place." From 1995 to 2004, in 9 years, Li Hong worked around the world to support himself and hand in his endowment insurance.
"I can't get out of work again if I can get a pension." Li Hong introduced, stopped the rush of livelihood, she tried to "self redemption", out of the pain of losing independence. From 2008 to June this year, she had been studying at the provincial university of old age and the city senior university. "In addition to Wednesday, she was full of classes in a week and reported many classes, such as Beijing opera, Henan opera, dance and so on."
"I didn't even take pictures of serious children before I passed away. After the death of my daughter, I let go and take pictures." Li Hong pointed to a picture. The reporter found that although she smiled in her mouth, she could not see a smile in her eyes.
8 years of "self redemption", Li Hong again mentioned her daughter, still excited, unable to tears, tears. "I hope you can see me again." When reporters left in the afternoon, Li Hong said with abandon. Until reporters left, no one else visited Li Hong's house.
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"lost old man" why nobody company?
why "lost mother" Li Hong these years will be so lonely lonely and lonely? Li Hong's residence area drug Hill Street office reply, because Li Hong's account and family planning relations are not within the jurisdiction, therefore can not enjoy the independent family visits in the jurisdiction The policy suggests that Li Hong transfer the family planning relationship to the District, or ask where the family planning relationship is located.
at present, "the old man who loses independence" is facing not only the pension problem, the economic compensation problem, but also the psychological loneliness. How to solve this series of problems?
in July this year, the national health office family hair (2016) 33 document, "the State Health Planning Commission Office on the establishment and improvement of family planning special family contact system", asked, "contact the object of accident, serious illness, disaster, death and other important circumstances, contact people It is necessary to come home in time to help solve problems and solve problems. Every important traditional festival should be carried out in a way that is easy to accept. "
at the same time, Lu Wei family hair (2016) 1 document, "the implementation of the advice on the implementation of special family support care for family planning", gave 11 implementation opinions, involving the elderly, medical care, compensation, care and other aspects of "lost independence" family. The view was carried out in July 1, 2016.