daughter QQ space photos are left to "forget" the last miss. Last May 16th, her daughter died suddenly because of heart disease on the school playground.
after her daughter's accident, her husband never came home again. I can't forget to move to my daughter's old room. More time is chatting with the people on the Internet.
drunken years threw away everything before, leaving only a picture of his son's life in the wallet.
there is a Chinese saying, "keeping up old children"
but there are such a group of people who are mostly 50 years old. They have experienced economic difficulties in the 50s of the last century, the "Cultural Revolution" Holocaust in 60s, the mountain and the countryside in 70s, and family planning in 80s. Their only child died because of an accident, and it was hard for them to regenerate their children. They found that apart from their emotional suffering, their remaining lives were nowhere to be placed. They were called "the ones who lost their independence". More than half a month ago, Shi Peng, a photographer, found them through the QQ group who lost their independence, and tried to enter their inner world.
according to incomplete statistics, the number of families lost to independence in China has exceeded 1 million, increasing at an annual rate of 76 thousand. In addition to emotional suffering, they have to face the embarrassment of the old age. When they are old and old, they need the care of their children. They are not only lonely, but even the nursing homes are not going to go.
in view of this situation, the relevant subsidy policies have been introduced successively. In December 2013, the office of the Hangzhou Municipal People's government issued a supplementary notice to the implementation of the "support system for family planning special families in Hangzhou". The document stipulates that "a one-off subsidy is given to the lost family, and the only child families lose their children by a one-off 5000 yuan subsidy from the Hangzhou family planning public welfare fund. The county (city) should give a one-time subsidy in combination with local conditions. "
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snow day hate daughter, born in 1954, 60 years old, now living in Hangzhou.
daughter was great, born in 1978, and died in 1997 because of the collapse of residential buildings.
"pain can not be understood in this pain."
snow day hate and husband Lao Wang, happy life set sail in the "Changshan river source" of Changshan county. It is precisely this beautiful county town, because a shoddy house has buried a lifelong regret in the old man's heart.
Lao Wang's ancestral home in Hangzhou, after graduating from the technical school to Changshan County lion mouth water power station, after the introduction of people to know the snow day hate, two people married in 1977, second years have their own daughter, a great name. In 1995, the unit of the house where snow hates hated the house, and the family got a 2 bedroom house of 79 square meters. In July 12, 1997, the grand college entrance examination finished third days, 7 in the morning, the couple left home to go to work, a great deal of students ready to go out to play, more than 9, this 5 storey residential building collapsed.
when he saw his daughter in a temporary shed outside the hospital, his daughter was already an icy body. The accident caused 39 people to be buried, and only 3 people were born. The incident was identified as a major responsibility accident by the local government. According to the compensation standard of traffic accident, snow day hated and husband received a total compensation of 89 thousand yuan.
one year after her daughter died, snow day and her husband retired in advance and returned to Hangzhou. Snow and her husband also considered whether to give birth again. Later, because of poor health, they gave up the idea. Lao Wang is 64 years old, the husband and wife live in an old house of 30 square meters. Lao Wang's mother has been 89 years old. Lao Wang said, "now it is for the old man to live, and the old man is gone, and I don't know what to do." When you find a nursing home, it will be a day. "
a large cemetery is on the hillside of the Nanshan cemetery in Hangzhou. A poem is carved on the back of the tombstone, which is written to the daughter by snow. Lao Wang said, in a few years, when we enter the nursing home, I wonder if I can see her again.
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male, born in 1962, aged 52, now living in Tongxiang, Jiaxing.
son Kai Kai, born in 1994, died in 2011 for a gas explosion.
"only alcohol can make me sleep."
"drunk year" is the name of the net since her son's life. It means that Dad drinks all day, and his life is draining away all day. This sentence has also become a true portrayal of the drunken year. In the year of
1994, he was married to Fang Fang, a girl in Changsha, and gave birth to her son, Kai Kai. At this time, the fate of the magic hand quietly extended to the family of three. In June 2001, his wife was diagnosed with rectal cancer, and his wife died in May 2002 after spending about 500000 yuan. In 2008, gradually came out of the pain and drunkenness with his son back to his hometown in Tongxiang, Jiaxing, opened a clothing store, after all, son needs to be raised.
"I don't know what I've done in my life. I've worked hard and I've suffered so many grievances. I have nothing in the end."
after the death of his son, he rented a farmer's house in a drunk year. Except for a quilt, his other furniture was landlord. Go out to work during the day and drink alone at night. More often than not, in bed, we chat with each other in the QQ and the missing persons in the group to comfort each other.
"the days I live now are people in the daytime and ghost at night!" Drunken years of self mockery.
"you ask me what I want to do, I do not have any plans, next year I do not want to, wait for the house to be divided down, first decorated in a room, then slowly again." At the end of the story, a cigarette smoke came out of the year.
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can not forget the woman, born in 1964, 50 years old, now living in Ningbo City.
daughter, born in 1994, died of sudden cardiac death in 2013.
"why do I still wake up when I wake up?"
6 4, is an unforgettable birthday.
at this time last year, the daughter promised to give her a dress as a birthday present, but this gift turned into an unfulfilled promise forever.
2013 May 16th, at 12 noon, I can't forget to chat with my daughter on QQ and ask her whether she has received the new online shopping clothes.
14:30, I can't forget to call my daughter's classmate, saying that she collapsed when she was running, and was sent to the hospital.
on the way to the hospital, I received another call from my teacher: "where have you been? We're all waiting for you in the rescue.
this "and so on" words can not forget very hard to forget, when to the hospital, the teacher and the students have been waiting at the door, but it is a sentence: "we have done our best..."
can't forget to fall on the ground.
once again saw her daughter at the memorial service. On that day, she buried herself in the face of her cold corpse.
after her daughter's accident, her husband never came home again.
can't forget that the people living in China are children, the people of their age, the common topic is children, no children, nothing. Once, when I met my former colleagues and colleagues in the street and asked questions about their children, she could only walk away with a few words. "It makes me sick," I can't forget to say excitedly.
"I feel that I am not the same as other people, other people have their own children, all have their own family, I have nothing, I am isolated in this society. In addition to going to work, I have to shut myself in my room. "
"I'm most afraid of going to bed at night. I can't sleep. My brain is full of my daughter. Sometimes I wonder why I'm still awake when I wake up." Can't forget to say