Visit to Ji'nan matchmaking agency: cat and dog: paying for marriage, but being married as a wedding partner.
Qilu Evening Newspaper. Qilu one reporter Liu Yafei Wang Qian
because of small circle of life and friends Narrow faces make it difficult for some young men and women to meet the right people on their own. At this time, matchmaking as a platform for making friends has become a bridge for many people to be happy. However, due to the bad marriage in the industry, the happiness bridge is also full of traps, which make it impossible for people to defend themselves.
thirty thousand membership fee
no suitable object
"I would like to find a staff member of a civil servant or a business unit, but it has not been selected for such a long time." MS Wan is 32 years old. She is still single. She chose to sign up on the marriage website to fill in the information and try to find her other half.
not a long time, Ms. Wan received a marriage phone call. The other person called herself a real store where MS Wan had registered a website and told her to go to the store to take a class. "After they went, they told me that there were a lot of staff and workers in the civil service and institutions, and there were a lot of work at the long Austria building, and I was more heartfelt after listening to it."
so, Ms. Wan gave 29800 yuan of the membership fee, the other Party promised a one to one service for Ms. Wan, in six months for her to introduce six men for her, and guidance for marriage and love.
MS Wan began to look forward to a good blind date, but the man who introduced her to her is only in line with her basic requirements. "The information they gave me, the information is very simple, for example age 35 years old, is a lawyer, like this information, I can find it from the marriage website."
not only that, but miss Wan did not accept the marriage and marriage guidance that she promised when she signed up. "The teacher who was in contact with me started to know me more. Then she left, and then a new person joined me. This person didn't even know my basic condition. How can I find the right person for me?"
to the relative of the person, the basic absent-minded
33 year old guard (the pseudonym) has also been in several marriage agencies for thousands of dollars of membership fee, has been over the past two years, her end of life is still not falling. Looking back at the "objects" she had seen through intermediaries, she described "most of them are not reliable".
little guard has not remembered the name of the first person to see, but she remembered clearly that the other person didn't seem to be really looking for the object. "My appearance is good, and I have a good income. I have a car in Ji'nan. I should not let the other side look at it. So the attitude of the other side makes me dissolve." Xiao Wei said that with the increasing number of people who met later, she found that she had met many people's "marriage entrustment". After seeing a lot of objects, some people are really not reliable, for example, some have seen one side and do not contact again, some go to work or holiday on the loss of union, some people do not show their documents for various reasons, some people confidentiality of family members information, etc.
in addition to feeling encounters, Xiaowei also felt that he had been treated as a wedding partner by marriage agents. "For a while, they met me with poor image and conditions." Xiao Wei said that she was most impressed by the object of a meeting, very unrepaired, half of his shirt in his pants, and the classmates who went to meet with the little guard said, "look at the first eye and don't want to see second eyes again."
from hundreds of dollars to tens of thousands of
higher
in order to give her daughter the object, Li Xia (the pseudonym) also in a number of marriages in the name, "some receive two hundred or three hundred, some one thousand or two thousand, but all did not find the right."
what is the price of marriage in Ji'nan? On the 21 day, the reporter consulted several marriage intermediaries for the name of the object, some of the matchmaking staff refused to quote on the phone, hoping to make a interview with the reporters. Some staff wanted the reporters to register on the Internet first, and the later arranged a pair of related packages and charges, while some matchmakers listened to reporters. After the condition, it is directly indicated that the more than 30 year old woman wants to find unmarried men, and the lowest fee is to pay more than 10 thousand yuan.
33, female, graduated from University, earning four thousand or five thousand yuan per month, and outsiders working in Ji'nan. Reporters said their "conditions", and hope that the other side can meet the "unmarried, stable work in Ji'nan, good heart" conditions, an online marriage agency line shop staff said, the condition, at least also pay 12980 yuan.
"to tell you the truth, your age requires that the other party be unmarried, which is quite a requirement." The staff said they would match the right men and arrange the meeting for the journalists, and the cost did not guarantee a one-time introduction of the success, and if the deadline passed, it would be necessary to renew the fee again.
according to the staff, the cost of ten thousand yuan is not the highest, and some of their members have paid about one hundred thousand yuan. "I once participated in an activity, the customer came out three million, listed very high condition, let the matchmaking organization help him find the object. Finally, the matchmaker found ten beauties from the whole country for his choice. Song Jiayu, chief psychology expert at China's marriage counseling and assistance network, said the reason for the example was that he found that the high demands of many marriage agencies, often the high demands of the contestants, raised the price of the service.
some matchers cheat
the price gap of the whole marriage market
in addition to the factors of the matrimonial, and the reasons for the marriage agency itself. According to the industry personage Xiao Wang said, the charge hundreds of pieces are mostly small doors, one thousand or two thousand of the basic is the common marriage agency, in the last two or three years, some of the marriage and love websites have come to Ji'nan to open the store, the prices of these institutions will be higher. "For the marriage agent, the most important resources, and the things to live on are the information of the members, and these love websites have mastered a lot of information, so they come to Ji'nan, which has brought great shock to the marriage market in Ji'nan."
Song Jiayu believes that Ji'nan's present marriage media are divided into four types. The first type is the entity store of the national linked network, and the operation mechanism is perfect. In addition, there are also some of the oldest local matrimonial agencies in Ji'nan. Their membership registration, entry and examination are also regular. In addition, there are also some ordinary matrimonial agents, who are also steadfastly engaged in matchmaking. The sources of information are also more authentic and the charges are more reasonable. But there is no denying that there are many matrimonial agents in Ji'nan. The source of information is opaque, and there are some deceptive behaviors, which also disturb the whole marriage and love market.
but in Wang's view, whether it is a high-end marriage or a common marriage, the current success rate is not so high, and once unsuccessful, it will affect people's views on the marriage matchmaker, and believe that all the marriage is not reliable.
Song Jiayu says women usually choose men who are better than their own when choosing a spouse, but a lot of good men may choose a woman with a smaller age or worse condition than his own. Women want to find the other half through the marriage, often do not need to marry through the marriage, so in the marriage agency, the conditions and needs between men and women between the dislocation. 銆�