The custom of marriage has grown from tedious to simple and married. What are the details of marriage in Ji'nan?
Shun Net - Ji'nan daily
into August, the seventh eve of the city, in this romantic atmosphere, a lot of bridegroom, quasi bride They began to see parents, pick up dates, book hotels, prepare betrothal gifts and dowry.
from you to me, until I get married and talk about marriage, there are different customs at every stage. How do you know about the custom of marriage when you get into the marriage hall? How do these traditions have evolved? How do you respond if your other half has a different native place and different customs between the two places?
from three to car, house, and ticket
In August 10, 2015, Mr. Guo's wedding 30th anniversary commemorative day, the custom of the year, he still remember the custom, he still remember the new year, the age of.Amp; lsquo three turn.Amp; rsquo.Amp; lsquo old four.Amp; rsquo: watches, sewing machines, bicycles and tape recorders, are when the wedding.Amp; lsquo.Amp; rsquo.
the family was not so good at that time. It was not easy to collect these.Amp; lsquo large.Amp and rsquo. Mr. Guo had a smile on his face. He saved a few months to buy a permanent bike, and his love fermented in the back of the car, taking her to Daming Lake, the botanical garden.Amp; lsquo for.Amp; rsquo, we went to see the parents a few months later.
Mr. Guo said that both of them were Jinan people, and parents, pick up dates and receive brides were all done according to the customs of old Ji'nan. On the day of marriage, he looked for a Charley car to pick up the bride. It felt corrugated, the wedding banquet was eaten at the hotel near the Grand View Garden, and seven or eight tables were set. At that time, many friends and colleagues came to Duli, and at that time,.Amp was still not popular with lsquo; rsquo, the gifts were mostly.Amp; lsquo double joy.Amp; rsquo warm bottle and pillow. Set cover, enamel, face and basin and other living items.
the wedding room is divided into units, and furniture is also arranged by two parties. Mr. Guo said that he had spent hundreds of yuan, bought a large cabinet, a desk, a bedside cupboard and a Shanghai radio, and a double spring sofa, which was forty or fifty yuan a month at that time.
changes. With the development of the economy and the change of ideas, the three turn of the year has gradually evolved into a house, a car and a ticket, but most of the weddings are carried out according to the traditional custom.
80's Lv Bing (the pseudonym) married two years ago, originally planned to not do the wedding banquet, take the current popular travel marriage, but finally the idea of both parents, not to do the formal marriage? Finally, according to the traditional form, the birth of the birthday of the bride, to the bride, to the bride It is a bit of trouble for the family to send a red bag and a tea cup with a handle, but it is later thought that marriage is a great event in life, or should we respect these traditional etiquette. Lv Bing said.
marriage custom brings embarrassment
begging for birthday, eight characters disorderly,
hundred miles different wind, thousands of miles of different customs. There are different marriage customs in different places. When a pair of new people from different places of origin talk about marriage, they have a headache because of taking care of the customs of both sides, and some families even make trouble.
Ji'nan young trabecular married a Heze daughter-in-law a year ago. Because of the different customs of the two places, a misunderstanding before the wedding made his father-in-law and his mother-in-law quite dissatisfied with him. Before marriage, we need to make a date. When we go to the old house of our daughter-in-law to inquire about the birth of the birthday, we have gone to the two or three times, and the other side all with.Amp; lsquo and so on.Amp; rsquo for reason not to tell us. In desperation, little Liang Jia had to choose a lucky day according to Huang Li. I didn't expect his father-in-law to be angry after knowing it, and felt that we did not respect them.
later it was known that this is the custom of a daughter-in-law. Trabeculae said that when the man sent his family to the woman's house for birthday, he usually asked several times to express his wish to marry the girl.
like the past trabecula, Che Lu, who is preparing the wedding ceremony, has also experienced differences in marriage customs.
my boyfriend's home is in the south, and they usually have a wedding reception at home. Lu said, the man's family put forward two places to do one, and the wedding banquet in Ji'nan also hopes to be held in the evening. "On the one hand, because of custom, on the other hand, is also for easy to order a hotel, but my parents are more traditional, old feeling that the evening marriage is unlucky, now because it is a little unpleasant." "
" the difference caused by different habits, really let us' fear of marriage 'ah, "car Lu a belly bitter water," the wedding will have to run two places, usually have so much time to prepare, if all the parents do, too hard ". Lu said, she and her boyfriend are working on both parents, hoping to get married. "It should be sweet and romantic to think of getting married, not to be tired."
marriage is looking forward to the easy and popular
marriage custom tends to be simple and civilized
according to Zhang Jiping, an expert on folk culture research, in ancient times, the old Ji'nan people were paying attention to the "six rites", that is, "Naji", "ask", "Naji", "Naji", "please", "marry", and the general process is to ask a matchmaker to a woman's home. Later, according to the names and birthdays of the two sides, see whether they are compatible. If you get along well, the man will send the bride price to the woman's home, then negotiate the wedding day. When some large families hold a wedding banquet, they will specially invite the master of Alte Kanzlei Hotel to come home and take a big hand.
"the steps to get married are almost the same as before, but it's just a simplified form," Zhang Jiping said. When both parents saw parents setting their parents, they chose a double day to hold a wedding banquet. Most of them chose the weekend, the wedding third days later and the daughter-in-law "return to the door". "This includes some special customs, such as the groom to the woman." When the bride comes to the bride's house, the mother will eat dumplings for the girl to be married, because there is a saying that "when the new couple go out in Ji'nan, there is a" dumpling dumpling. "
"there are different marriage customs in different regions. Conflicts are inevitable." Zhang Jiping said the conflict includes the time and place of the wedding banquet, the place and the standard of the bride price, the jewelry, the change fee, and so on. "In fact, no matter how big the difference is, as long as the two can communicate with each other and respect each other's customs, they can find the way they can accept. After all, it is for children to be happy together in the future. Live the day.
Zhang Jiping said that marriage should be more elegant and easy to get married, to remove some inherent feudal superstitions, to eliminate extravagance and waste, to make the wedding more civilized, concise and personality, which is the development direction of marriage customs and culture.
extend the tradition of reading marriage custom to know how many
to single back: the number of the bride is singular, and the bride is just double, meant to be paired and fly.
steal a cup: when the man arrives at the woman's house to pick up the bride, a person sneaks the cup with the handle back to her husband's home.
no way to go back: the line from the husband's family to the bride's route and the route from her home to her husband's home (or hotel) is not repeated.
knocking: the people who usually connect to the bride's home tend to be "shut out". Only a few red envelopes are stuck in the door, and the men in the door open the door to the house.
dumplings fall on the feet: when the bride is ready to leave her home, the bride's mother eats the dumpling by the bride's mother, and when the bride receives the bride, the mother's family will cook it to the bride.
Zhangqiu "worship ceremony": some are similar to the "change fee", but the scope involved is different. The bride needs to restructure on the day of the wedding. The main parents, including parents, cousins and cousins, need to be prepared for the bride. The amount varies from 20 to 300 yuan, and the family conditions vary according to the man's family conditions.
Shanghe "Ying Lang Li": when son-in-law returns to the door, he receives a "fight" to realize that "beating is a kiss and a curse is love". According to local customs, in 3 or 7 days after marriage, the bridegroom will take his wife back to her home. At the entrance or dinner, the son-in-law needs to be beaten, most of the important relatives of her family, and the heavier it is, the thicker the bridegroom's red packet is.
"a prison": "a prison" as a gift refers to an ox, a pig and a sheep. When the wedding banquet was held in ancient times, the family of the groom should send cattle, pigs and sheep to the home of the woman, but because of the living conditions, some villages can not afford the whole head, and the meat that is slaughtered can only be sent to the women's house. Now some small villages still retain this tradition, but the form has long been diluted.