Does the Mid Autumn Festival go to the mother's family or the maiden house? Ji'nan custom: Fifteen mother's family and sixteen maiden
about the citizens of the Ji'nan times. The lady's hometown is in Lanzhou. His husband, Mr. Sun, is in Dongying. The two people have been married for 5 years. Their feelings have been very good. In order to celebrate the festival in the Mid Autumn Festival, the two people had a quarrel.
Ms. Yang said that she had not spent the Mid Autumn Festival with her parents for 7 years. She wanted to take her husband and daughter back together this year, but he insisted on going back to Dongying. The whole family was in Dongying before the Mid Autumn Festival last year. She said. Sun said that it was not too long to go home with his wife, but it was too far off to return to Lanzhou on national day.
reporters learned that, because of anger, neither side of the Mid Autumn Festival went to the side of the Mid Autumn Festival.
Mid Autumn Festival, the custom of Ji'nan is generally the fifteen home in August, the sixteen home, but on the problem of going to the mother's family or the maiden house, some couples disagree, and some even argue. There are experts saying that both husband and wife are only children, and they are more likely to meet such choices. Consultation and tolerance are the most important. When it is impossible to give consideration to the other, they can make a call to the other side of the old man.
netizens say
@ with heart: when I think of the Mid Autumn Festival going back to my mother-in-law's house, I feel guilty. I really can't adapt to the atmosphere there.
@ bubble flying: both sides are parents, which side are there such a big difference?
@ pomelo control: many times, we are all out of our own, I hate to divide ourselves into two sides to see the old people on both sides.
folklore expert:
Ji'nan custom: Fifteen home mother-in-law's sixteen home
the Mid Autumn Festival should go to the mother-in-law's home or mother-in-law's home? The reporter interviewed 30 citizens randomly through telephone, network and field interview. 10 of them said that the elderly had gone on both sides of the festival this year, 8 were in the mother-in-law 's festival, 5 had lived in their mother-in-law, and 3 had their parents back home for the festival, and 4 had not been able to go home to see the old people on the Mid Autumn Festival.
reporters found that both parents were in Ji'nan, and their children would usually take the time to go and have a look. And parents in the field, most of the children can only choose two, some of them can not go back when they catch up with duty. 9 of the people interviewed said that if conditions permit, both sides will go to have a look.
Zhang Jiping, a folklore expert in Ji'nan, said that according to Ji'nan's traditional custom, it was generally fifteen times in August, and sixteen in August. This is actually a kind of wisdom that can not discriminate against others. It still has some reference significance.
expert recruitment:
the most important for negotiation tolerance is not necessary
this, Zhang Hongying, a professional professor of social work of the Shandong University philosophy society college, believes that this choice occurs mostly in children and their parents in two places, children in different places. The group has only a large number of single children, and their parents have only one child. Once the festival is over, the children are thinking of going home to see their parents. She said that this is also related to the change of women's concept. In the past, when women married, they would stay at their homes for the holidays. Now this tradition has been broken.
Zhang Hongying said that filial piety is a good thing. There is no need to hurt feelings between husband and wife. The main reason for the dispute is that the two sides have not put themselves in place. It is the most important thing for husband and wife to negotiate and communicate with others. She suggested that she could go to her parents' home in advance or go round once a year. She would go to her mother-in-law's house this year and go to her mother-in-law's house next year. If you can't go, remember to call the old man.